i must say that a lot of ppl have very different views as to why men sleep around..
let me tell u what i think..
(some of it was through experience and some intuition)
some men sleep around just cos they like it perv
the interesting fact for this post is that, most guys, or maybe u’d like to think that its only a small amount of men who sleep around,
already have their ’love of their life’ in mind.
and i actually believe that it is a possibility.
why do i think so?
well, through experience, i’ve found out that these men already love a particular girl with all their heart (or most of their heart for that matter haha)
BUT, they are still sleeping around because they are not ready for commitment
they are fearful of commitment
and sleeping around is a cover up to their fears
and most the time, them sleeping around is one of the ways of trying to convince themselves that they love the life of a playboy or one that has no commitments..
some may say that these men might have other reasons
and yes i’d agree..
some might not be equiped enough to love/commit
and some might even find that they love a certain girl way too much to want to hurt them (my personal take to this is, i’d rather u tell me that u want to have fun and then settle down with me when u’re ready so that i get to have my fun as well while u have yours, but it doesnt necessarily mean that i’ll be sleeping around or doing nonsense of any kind)
or some might do it cos they know they do not see a future with the girl so they do it in a way to stop the girl from loving him
and i know a lot of women may disagree with me
but i honestly think that, even if a guy have flings here and there, they are FLINGS
even though the men that u love (provided u’re not with him a.t.m) might suddenly pop up with a new gf, please just stop and observe the situation
u might find that the girl that he is with at the moment is not the type of person he’d want to spend the rest of his life with, so in other words, THE RELATIONSHIP WONT LAST! cos its a fling!
its just for the fun and thrill of having a new girl friend..
but trust me, when i say it wont last, IT. WONT. LAST.
if the man that u love tells u that he is not ready for commitment, high chances are that he really isnt.
and if u ask me, i’d tell u that i’ve found respect for the men who are brave and willing to readily admit that they are not ready for commitment
would u rather your man agree to be with u but secretly he’s either seeing someone else or sleeping with multiple ppl outside?
my guess is that your answer would most likely be NO.
i know this might come as something that is hard to accept and to believe
but i know that it is true and that it can happen and that the posibilities of this happening is pretty high.
the process of finding this out wasnt easy at all..
i had to learn it the hard way
but thank god that i always had the urge to want to understand ppl and their behavior and that i’ve got a slightly more open mind
and i strongly believe that in order to keep a relationship or friendship or to start a whole new life, understanding is the way to go.
to understand a man is to give u a more peaceful mind
if u still think i’m stupid and dilusional, we’ll see who laughs last
